This entire blog post is dedicated to one line in the episode Endgame when Goren says to Ross: "You don't know what I need. And don't tell me who I am. You don't know who I am. And don't tell me how I think."
To me this is such a strong scene for Vincent's character. The way he reveals his feelings - or if you think about it - lack thereof. His anger covered all other emotions. Perhaps he was hiding in his shell for fear of being sought out, revealed, understood, ridiculed for being who he is, etc. You name it, I've thought about it because I love this scene. And when he told Ross not to tell him what he needs, who he is or how he thinks, you have to wonder... In my personal opinion, I don't believe Ross every really understood him. Maybe to a certain point, but he just didn't get him. For me, I saw a lack of trust towards Goren that I hated. I don't think Goren was defensive, per se, but I definitely heard that Goren roar that could be seen as a 'back off' to his own captain. I have to agree with him because, really, who is Ross to assume he knows what Goren needs? His boss? So what.
As a person that is known to be quite complicated like Goren, I too can say it's very frustrating when people pretend to know who I am or what I'm thinking. In fact, I believe I've said some words similar to his before...
I have a slide-show at the bottom of screen caps I took as the scene plays out. There are many pictures of Ross I skipped, but you get the point. The dialogue is as follows (note: all pictures are in order):
Ross: He's toying with you. Now you're personally invested. He's got you exactly where he can control you.
Goren: He's not in control of me. I can handle him.
Ross: No, detective, you don't need this in your life right now.
Goren: You don't know what I need. And don't tell me who I am. You don't know who I am. And don't tell me how I think.
Ross: I'll just tell you this, you're off this case.
(Ross exits the room and Eames goes after him to persuade him to change his mind)
Note: The first picture starts where the title at the top says Endgame.